Except they do. You are proof. But the world has not caught up yet, and that gap between reality and what people believe creates an isolation that is hard to describe. You searched for help and found advice that assumed you were a man. Forums, podcasts, recovery programs — all built around an experience that is not yours.
That invisibility does something corrosive. It tells you that your struggle does not exist, that you invented it, that something is uniquely wrong with you. When there is no language for what you are going through, it starts to feel like a personal defect rather than a human one.
You are not an edge case. The numbers are large. The silence is larger. The secrecy is not because the numbers are small. The secrecy is because the shame is enormous.
You downloaded this app. You started this course. That means you already did the hardest part — you admitted to yourself that this is real.
Your struggle is real and shared by more women than you will ever know. The silence is not evidence of absence.
Write down one sentence that starts with "I watch porn because..." — not to judge it, just to name it out loud for the first time.